What if it was OK to fail?
What if we redirected our pursuit to be perfect to be more empowering than destructive?
What if we encouraged our children to find what lights them up and excel in these areas rather than having to be perfect in everything?
Petra Kolber is a fitness expert turned positive psychology advocate who has presented in over 30 countries and at over 300 conventions.
She has consulted for companies such as Reebok, Gatorade, Adidas and California Walnuts. She has spoken at TEDx and she wrote the monthly Happiness Challenge for Spry Living Magazine.
Petra speaks and writes about how we can strengthen our courage muscle and stretch our dreams. Her passion and work is called The Perfection Detox ?dropping the weight of perfection (and teaching our children to do the same) so we can soar into our potential.
As a two – time cancer survivor her mission is to teach people how to live their lives fully, with passion and “on purpose”.
In today’s conversation, Petra gives brilliant insight into the power of our words and our thoughts. She shares how important it is to empower our kids by allowing them to make mistakes, even teaching them that failing is necessary on the road to excellence instead of expecting flawlessness from them at all times.
Petra’s own perfectionism was getting in her way of showing up as her true self and openly relates what she learned as a result of this experience.
Trying to perfect has the power to destroy our children and so we have to focus on how to bring the joy back to learning and growing up and at the same time not negating the hard work that goes into becoming an adult.
Perfectionism shows up in all sorts of ways:
- The self-oriented perfectionist who is trying to be the best she can be with joy and enthusiasm.
- The other-oriented perfectionist who looks at others and expects them to be perfect. Be mindful and ask yourself if you are defining your self-worth by how great your kids are?
- The idea of the socially prescribed perfection, which is all about externally prescribed pressures by the media and our world.
When you consider perfectionism, it is important to shine a light on the power of your word (One of The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (a book by Don Miguel Ruiz): be impeccable with your word!). We’re expecting our kids to be perfect and the language that we use might be creating this idea that to be worthy they need to be perfect.
We also talk about:
- how hiding who we really are has become an art
- how we don’t see the 10.000 hours that go into being a master of your work
- how we need to be a role model for our kids
- the “duck syndrome”
- the land of AND
- and so much more.
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